Food for Thought

A dear friend would tell me - boy (which is me), we don't belong to one person, we belong to EVERYBODY (he was preaching polygamy I think)... Is that logical thinking? Maybe if we say 'don't put all your eggs in one basket...' so we can enjoy the best of both worlds... but don't get me wrong, we are not really talking about love. We are simply talking about common sense, but alas! If only our lives is that simple.

When we approach this topic of logical thinking, its best is not to drag our emotions in it... Why? because when it comes to matters of the heart, it rarely operate on common sense. But it is good know, when we are confused by our very own emotional turmoil, we can turn to some good logical thinking for guidance.

Here's one way:

Argumentation is not Quarreling

According to the book 'Being Logical' a guide to good thinking by D.Q. Mcinerny, argumentation is rational discourse. The object of argument is getting the truth. The object of quarreling is to get back at each other. However, if an argument gets out of control, where the truth doesn't matter anymore, it can lead to quarreling.

Let's say for the sake of argument, you would want to bring love to logical thinking. If you see a hole in front of you, for the sake of love, would you walk straight into it? That would probably explain why love is blind if you do. However, what if you chose not to walk into the hole in front of you, would you then say - oh I like you, it is because I like you, I can't be with you... If you feel this way, you may save yourself a whole lot of heartache.

The point is, the more intense our emotional state, the more difficult for us to see clearly. We have to make conscious effort to keep emotion out of argument. Though we can never be totally successful at this, we need to bear in mind that if emotions take the upper hand, clear thinking will be impossible.

Outer beauty VS Inner beauty

When I was in my 20s, I would think - heart matters most (still is by the way) but I underestimated the importance the world has placed outer beauty in our daily lives... the corporate world understood it and took full advantage of that to form a multi-billion dollar industry on cosmetic, fashion, etc... they would use models to dictate what beauty should be... and we unknowingly pressure ourselves to conform. So they would constantly make money through our insecurities... because we would question our looks, our body... etc... basically, as long as we are not happy the way we look... they will make money...

I then decided to put myself to the test, I started going to the gym... took that extra effort to look good and in three months, I was out there at clubs and boy what a difference it has made. People started to notice... not that I was hot or anything... but the point I am making, we are living in a shallow world.

I met my first love (actually my only love) in my early 30s (yes I was a late bloomer), that was after I started to look good haha... So the question was, if I had not been looking good, would I have that chance at love?

The truth of the matter is - looks are important but the heart should always be the deciding factor.

Wait ciggie break... :P

Friends VS Lovers

I feel that somehow friendship tend to be more successful than relationship. We do not need many friends in life but it is important to know who are your friends. Having said that, it is tricky when friends become lovers and lovers become friends... Can it done? I see many successful examples and you know who you are... : )

Gossips VS the Truth

Gossips is the oldest and most common means of sharing unproven facts and views on personal lives of others that I never really care much about... Though people are entitled to talk and to their opinions but sometimes, people should be more responsible on what rumors they are spreading because it can badly affect the outcome of a situation. Like the saying goes, what goes in one ear, out in many mouths... I learn that lesson the hard way...